How to Create a Healthy Relationship with SelfAuthor: Heal & Shine with Komal**
- twinflamesharmony
- Nov 1
- 8 min read
Updated: Nov 22
🌷 Have You Ever Truly Asked Yourself…
When was the last time you sat with yourself — not to judge, not to fix anything — but just to be there for you?
We often give Love, care, and understanding to others so easily. But when it comes to ourselves, we forget. We wait for someone else to understand us, to comfort us, to make us feel seen — when deep down, that’s what we are meant to do for ourselves first.
Creating a Healthy Relationship with Self isn’t just a spiritual practice — it’s a very real, everyday choice. It’s learning to be on your own side, even when the world doesn’t understand you.
🌼 Introduction
Namaste I am 'Komal Aravind' For years as a Life Coach and someone who has walked the deep path of Twin Flame growth, I’ve realized something very simple but powerful — every healing, every change, every transformation begins inside.
You can’t build a peaceful Relationship with someone else if you’re constantly at war within. You can’t feel secure in Love if you keep doubting your own worth.
This blog isn’t about perfection or pretending to be “healed.” It’s about honesty. About learning to see yourself with kindness. About being okay with being human — and still learning to trust yourself more each day.
If you’ve ever felt disconnected from yourself, or too harsh on your own emotions, this is your gentle reminder — you are not broken. You are just learning to come home to yourself.
✨ Key Takeaways
By the end of this blog, you’ll understand:
What a Healthy Relationship with Self really means
Why it’s the base of every other Relationship in your life
How to handle your emotions with gentleness
How to stop seeking constant validation from others
Simple ways to build self-trust, self-confidence, and peace
🌿 1. What Does “Relationship with Self” Mean?
It simply means how you treat yourself — the way you talk to yourself, listen to yourself, and support yourself through your feelings and choices.
Many of us grow up believing that Love has to come from outside — from parents, partners, or friends. And yes, those relationships matter. But the truth is, every connection outside reflects the one inside.
When you ignore your feelings, you attract people who do the same. When you respect yourself, you naturally draw in people who respect you too.
A Healthy Relationship with Self is built on three simple things:
Honesty — being real with yourself about how you feel.
Compassion — treating yourself with kindness even when you mess up.
Patience — knowing that healing takes time, and that’s okay.
🌺 2. Why Is It So Important?
Because every emotion, every decision, every dream — it all begins with you.
When you’re disconnected from yourself, you look for answers and approval everywhere else. You start asking, “Do they like me?” or “Am I enough?”
But when you’re in tune with yourself, the questions change. You start asking, “Do I like who I am becoming?” and “Does this feel peaceful to my heart?”
That shift changes everything.
You stop chasing Love and start becoming Love. You stop begging for peace and start creating it. You stop trying to be understood and start understanding yourself.
And the more you do that, the more you begin to attract people, opportunities, and experiences that align with your truth.
🌸 3. How to Build a Healthy Relationship with Self
It doesn’t happen overnight — it’s a slow, gentle process. But small, consistent actions make a big difference.
Here are some ways to begin:
1. Check In With Yourself Daily
Ask yourself: “How am I feeling right now?”Don’t rush to fix the answer. Just listen.Your emotions aren’t problems — they’re signals.
2. Be Kind to Your Inner Voice
Notice how you speak to yourself in your mind.Would you talk that way to someone you Love? If not, soften it. You don’t need to be perfect — just kind.
3. Set Boundaries Without Guilt
You’re allowed to say no to what drains your peace.Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re self-respect in action.
4. Feel Your Feelings Fully
Don’t hide your emotions or call them “too much.”If you’re sad, feel it. If you’re angry, acknowledge it.That’s how you heal — not by suppressing, but by understanding.
5. Celebrate Small Wins
You don’t have to wait for something big to feel proud of yourself. Every time you listen to your heart, speak your truth, or take care of your peace — that’s growth.
🌼 Additional Spiritual Tools for Emotional Strength
Building a Healthy Relationship with Self isn’t just about reflection — it’s also about finding practices that support your emotional and spiritual balance.Here are a few gentle tools that can help you connect deeper with yourself and stay emotionally strong:
Your inner child carries powerful emotions, memories, and unmet needs. When you connect with that part of yourself — with patience and Love — it helps you understand your patterns and heal past wounds.This practice can bring a sense of lightness and wholeness back into your life.
Balancing your chakras helps you feel more centered and open. Each chakra represents a different part of your emotional world — grounding, Love, expression, intuition, and more.When these energies are balanced, your thoughts and emotions start flowing more freely, bringing calm and clarity.
The Akashic Records hold your Soul’s history — the lessons, experiences, and wisdom that shape who you are. Exploring them can bring deep insight into recurring life patterns or emotional challenges.It often helps you understand the “why” behind your journey, so you can move forward with more freedom and awareness.
Reiki is a gentle energy-healing practice that clears emotional tension and restores inner calm.During Reiki, people often feel peaceful, lighter, and more connected to their intuition. It’s a beautiful way to support emotional healing while deepening self-trust.
Sometimes, we just need clarity when we’re unsure of our next step. Intuitive readings can mirror what your heart already knows — helping you see your truth more clearly.They don’t predict your future; they simply remind you of your own wisdom.
Quiet moments with yourself are powerful. Simple breathing exercises or guided meditations can help you slow down, release overthinking, and connect to your heart space.Even five minutes a day can make a difference in how grounded and calm you feel.
Mindfulness helps you stay present — not stuck in the past or worried about the future.Through mindful awareness, you can manage stress better, listen to your emotions without fear, and stay centered in your truth no matter what’s happening around you.
These tools don’t replace your emotional awareness — they support it.They help you reconnect when life feels overwhelming, and remind you that peace is something you can always return to within yourself.
🌻 4. Healing Through Honesty
There’s a moment in everyone’s healing journey when we realize — it’s not about fixing who we are, but about accepting ourselves as we are.
Healing isn’t about being happy all the time. It’s about being honest. It’s saying,“I feel hurt, but I’m still here.”“I’m learning, and that’s enough.”
When you stop judging your emotions, you start to understand them. And understanding creates peace.
You can still be sensitive, emotional, deeply feeling — and strong at the same time. In fact, real strength comes from not being afraid to feel.
🌙 5. My Own Experience
I’ve always been someone who feels everything deeply.When I Love, I Love truly. When I hurt, I feel it completely. I can’t pretend or switch off my emotions — that’s just not me.
For a long time, I thought maybe that was a weakness. But slowly, I understood — it’s actually my strength. Because when I feel something, I don’t run away from it. I sit with it. I allow it. And then I bring peace within myself.
There are still moments when I look for validation or understanding outside — we all do sometimes. But now I don’t depend on it.Even if someone doesn’t see things the way I do, even when I know the truth and the other person can’t accept it — I don’t argue. I let it be.
Because I’ve learned that peace doesn’t come from convincing anyone — it comes from trusting what you know inside.And day by day, that self-trust keeps growing. My self-confidence, my self-validation — they’re blooming naturally from the way I stay honest with my own feelings.
That’s what a Healthy Relationship with Self means to me:To be true to what you feel, to give space to your emotions, and to keep coming home to your own peace, again and again.
🌞 6. What Happens When You Build That Relationship
Something magical shifts.You stop comparing yourself.You stop needing to be understood all the time.You stop proving your worth.
You start living from your heart — with calm, quiet confidence.You begin to enjoy your own company. You trust your choices. You stop over-explaining yourself.
And even when life feels messy or uncertain, you know — you’ve got you.
That inner bond becomes your safety, your peace, your power.
🌼 Conclusion: Coming Home to You
Creating a Healthy Relationship with Self isn’t about becoming perfect. It’s about being real.
It’s about learning to hold your own hand through good days and bad ones. It’s about finding comfort in your own presence.
And most of all — it’s about knowing that no matter what happens, you are your own safe space.
So next time you look in the mirror, instead of finding flaws, try saying —“I’m proud of how far I’ve come.”“I’m learning to trust myself.”“I’m still growing, and that’s beautiful.”
Because you are. 🌸
🌻 FAQ: Relationship with Self
Q: Is self-Love selfish?
A: No. It’s self-respect. When you fill your own cup first, you have more Love to give others.
Q: How do I stop overthinking about what people think of me?
A: By reminding yourself that not everyone will understand your heart — and that’s okay. Your peace matters more than their opinion.
Q: What if I still need reassurance from others sometimes?
A: That’s human. Just make sure you also learn to give that reassurance to yourself — gently and honestly.
Q: How do I start trusting myself more?
A: Keep small promises to yourself. Each time you do, your inner trust grows stronger.
🌸 Hi, I’m Komal Aravind 🌸
I’m a Certified Life Coach, Healer, and Spiritual Teacher. I support people through Life Coaching, Twin Flames guidance, Inner Child Healing, Chakra Balancing, Akashic Records, Reiki, Angel Therapy, and intuitive card readings.
If you're healing from the past, feeling stuck, or going through a Twin Flames journey, I'm here to walk beside you. My approach is gentle, holistic, and focused on bringing peace, clarity, and balance to every area of your life—relationships, career, finances, and spiritual growth.
✨ Feeling called to begin? You are not alone. Your healing is sacred, and you deserve loving support.
You can explore my free and paid courses, or book a personal session
with me on my website:🌐 www.twinflamesharmony.com
📧 You’re welcome to email me at: twinflamesharmony@gmail.com
Sessions are available in Hindi or English.
With love and deep gratitude to God and all my teachers,– Komal Aravind🙏
Heal & Shine with Komal
Life. Love. Healing
Evolving from Twin Flame Harmony.
Heal & Shine with Komal
Life.Love.Healing
Evolving from Twin Flame Harmony.
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